I have no idea who said this but I came across their quote recently and decided that they are right. My girlfriends are amazing and I love each of them for many different reasons. One of these incredible women is getting married TOMORROW and I am ridiculously excited for her!!! Earlier this week a couple of us got together for dinner and drinks with the bride to be to start celebrating a little bit early :) Of course at some point we started talking about what we were all wearing.....what dress, with what shoes and jewelry. At the end of September in Michigan, Mother Nature can often provide you with three different seasons in one day, so planning ahead with multiple outfit possibilities is crucial. Between you and me, I have been dreading the decision of what to wear. I've been carrying around an extra ten pounds or so all summer and just don't feel like myself. (That's what three months of drinking wine and not much exercise will do to a waist line). I LOVE shoes and for weddings I typically wear a really fun high heel and a short, classy LBD (that's Little Black Dress for you non dress wearers). However, no matter the weather I'm leaning towards a long flowing maxi type dress instead of wearing a shorter, more structured one and feeling like a stuffed sausage all night. I mentioned this to my girlfriends and they told me I was being ridiculous, that I looked great in my skinny jeans and that if I've gained 10 pounds they don't know where it's at. I said something back and then got told "Geez, can't you just take a compliment"? That got me to shut-up. I help clients deal with their body image issues all the time and here I am having issues of my own! Thank you friend (you know who you are) for calling me out on my BS. I needed that conversation to take place to get me re-motivated to work out like I'm used to, to stop feeling bad about it and just get moving.
We all carry extra baggage around that weighs us down and without us knowing it, changes our internal belief system. My baggage happens to be 10 pounds which internally I believe makes me look and feel like a beached whale. Because of this internal belief, I've convinced myself that I need to hide my perceived fat rolls and only wear baggy, comfortable clothes. My friends helped me realize that the rest of the world does not see me this way and I need to just get over it already. In order to hold myself accountable, I decided to give myself permission to receive a compliment because I'm beautiful inside and outside - ten extra pounds or not. And I'm giving myself permission to start working out again because it's not selfish to schedule "me" time. This example might be silly, but it's something we can all relate to. What baggage do you want to get rid of? What's holding you back from being the best YOU? Give yourself permission to let something go......actually writing it out helps make it real. Try it and see how you feel! Better yet, see how many permission slips you can write for yourself over the next month. Letting go of old beliefs can be addicting :)